Manage negative emotions
Managing negative emotions is undoubtedly a skill that nowadays proves to be increasingly necessary. We are literally submerged with negative emotions, the historical period we are experiencing is characterized by the enormous need for security that we seem to never satisfy.
A necessary punctualization: emotional reactions cannot be controlled . These are psycho-physical reactions to external or internal stimuli. Emotions, in fact, can be managed or, even better, can be interpreted .
Another important point to define: there are no negative emotions. We can consider every emotional reaction as a signal, a call to action. Every emotions communicate something to us, and if we understand this message we are able to interpret the emotion and make good use of it.
Manage negative emotions: how to do it?
Let's see together the 5 most widespread negative emotions. For each we understand the message that we want to transmit and, consequently, what we can do, that is, what actions we can put into practice.
Fear
Message: something is about to happen, prepare!
Actions: individual what I can do to prepare myself in relation to what is about to happen and I prepare myself accordingly.
Anger
Message: something that is important for you has been violated.
Actions: the important thing that has been violated and I find a way to reduce the risk that happens again. I also wonder: do I know all the nuances of the event that made me angry? Having clarified every aspect in a wider vision does it still make sense to get angry?
Frustration
Message: it could go better, what you want is within your reach, but you are not managing to get there!
Actions: I do something differently or something new in the direction of my goal.
Disappointment
Message: What you want so much you will probably not be able to get it.
Actions: I find what I can learn from experience, I take advantage of it and I will take into account the journey to my next goal.
Inadequacy
Message: I can't do something that I should be able to do better.
Actions: individual with precision what I should do better and I try to improve. I also wonder: maybe I'm judging myself with too much severity?
Manage emotions: quick guide
You have seen in a nutshell what you want to communicate the most common negative emotions. You have also seen what possible actions you can take to make them the best possible use: use them for what they really are, signals that tell us that we have to do something.
Now what do I do?
Make this very simple strategy and, when you perceive a negative emotion, follow these steps:
- I remember what the emotions really are: of the signals that recall the action
- I identify the specific emotion and focus on understanding the message it brings with it
- I focus on the actions to be put into practice suggested by the emotional reaction
Finally always remember that we are human and that we live on emotions . You don't need to control them or repress them, you just need to interpret them!
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