Improve self -esteem: 3 ideas to be put into practice immediately

Improving self -esteem is a process on which many people (athletes and not) are constantly engaged. With this article I want to suggest three ideas to be metabolized and implement for your improvement.

First of all we give a couple of useful definitions.

Self -esteem: degree of appreciation of ourselves, evaluation of the personal value that we attribute to ourselves.

In parallel with this concept it is useful to introduce another: that of self -efficacy, attributable to the well -known psychologist Albert Bandura.

Self-efficacy: self-perception of one's ability to implement certain actions aimed at achieving a specific result.

The main difference between the two terms consists in this:

• self-esteem: self-evaluation relating to our identity
• self-efficacy: self-assessment of our abilities

If you know the NLP and the logical levels of Robert Dilts you have certainly brought back the two concepts in question at the respective levels.

Self-esteem and self-efficacy are closely related. A great way to improve our self-esteem, and therefore act with more self-confidence, is to work on our self-efficacy. Feeling capable of doing something well, in fact, improves the value we place on our identity. Now let's get to the heart of the matter.

Improve self -esteem: 3 practical ideas to be implemented immediately

Idea #1

Generally we all have the tendency to evaluate ourselves on the basis of the results we get. If my positive sporting results are on average higher than the defeats, my self -esteem will be high and solid. If, on the contrary, my defeats are superior to my victories, I will tend to have a lower self -esteem. It is a somewhat simplistic speech, it is certainly not just a matter of numbers, but for the purpose of this article it is sufficient to understand the general picture.

Do you want to improve self -esteem?

Decouple the value you place on yourself from results. Instead of evaluating yourself by the results you achieve, evaluate yourself by the effort you put into what you do. Evaluate what kind of person you feel you are based on how hard you work to achieve what you want, not on whether you'll actually achieve that result. You don't have control over all the aspects involved in achieving the result, so what's the point of evaluating yourself for something that doesn't depend on you?

Are you a sports coach? Reward your athletes for their hard work rather than their results. It goes without saying that rewarding hard work triggers a virtuous cycle that encourages further hard work, and the results will come naturally.

Idea #2

The second idea concerns all of us: we are the most severe judges of ourselves. If by chance this concept does not play you family, make this test: imagine the last mistake you made or the last stupid you made. Try to remember what your internal dialogue was and how the judgment was towards you. Then try to imagine that your partner or teammate did that thing. I bet your judgment towards her or towards him is much more understanding and benevolent. Isn't that so?

Do you want to improve self -esteem?

Send your inner judge on vacation, do not be too hard with yourself and remember that others, towards you, are more indulgent than you are with yourself.

Idea #3

Regarding the third and last idea, you answer these questions: to obtain the result to which you aim, what kind of athlete (or person) do you have to become? What skills do you need to develop? What personal characteristics do you need to improve?

Great, now get to work and remember the most important thing: the person you become is more important than the result you achieve. It's a constant work in progress, a process of personal growth; don't be quick to judge yourself!

Could you perhaps decide if you like a book written or not? Would you be able to understand if a picture meets your tastes when there is only a few sketches on the canvas? Would you be able to express a judgment on a film that is only the first draft of the script?

The same goes for you. You are the melody just mentioned that only with commitment and perseverance can become a magnificent symphony. Put at work and do what you need to make your music resonate. Do not run the risk of depriving the world of a work of art that only you can compose only because you have expressed a rushed judgment on yourself!

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