Improve self -esteem: 3 ideas to be put into practice immediately

Improving self -esteem is a process on which many people (athletes and not) are constantly engaged. With this article I want to suggest three ideas to be metabolized and implement for your improvement.

First of all we give a couple of useful definitions.

Self -esteem : degree of appreciation of ourselves, evaluation of the personal value that we attribute to ourselves.

In parallel with this concept it is useful to introduce another: that of self -efficacy, attributable to the well -known psychologist Albert Bandura.

Self -efficacy : Auto perception of the ability to implement certain actions oriented to obtain a specific result.

The main difference between the two terms consists in this:

• Self -esteem : self -assessment relating to our identity
• Self -efficacy : self -assessment relating to our skills

If you know the NLP and the logical levels of Robert Dilts you have certainly brought back the two concepts in question at the respective levels.

Self -esteem and self -efficacy are closely related to each other. A great way to improve our self -esteem, and therefore act more security in ourselves, is to work on the self -efficacy . Feel capable of doing something well, in fact, improves the value we attribute to our identity. Now let's go to the point of the speech.

Improve self -esteem: 3 practical ideas to be implemented immediately

Idea #1

Generally we all have the tendency to evaluate ourselves on the basis of the results we get. If my positive sporting results are on average higher than the defeats, my self -esteem will be high and solid. If, on the contrary, my defeats are superior to my victories, I will tend to have a lower self -esteem. It is a somewhat simplistic speech, it is certainly not just a matter of numbers, but for the purpose of this article it is sufficient to understand the general picture.

Do you want to improve self -esteem?

The value that you attribute to yourself is released from the results. Instead of evaluating yourself for the results you get, evaluated for the commitment you put in what you do . Consur what kind of person feels you are on the basis of how much you commit to get what you want, not on the basis of the fact that then that result will get it. Do you not have the control of all the aspects involved in the process to obtain the result, what sense has it made to evaluate yourself for something that does not depend on you?

Are you a coach or a sports coach? Reward "your" athletes for the commitment they put more than for the results they get. It goes without saying that rewarding the commitment triggers a virtuous circle that stimulates other commitment, in this way the results will come by themselves.

Idea #2

The second idea concerns all of us: we are the most severe judges of ourselves. If by chance this concept does not play you family, make this test: imagine the last mistake you made or the last stupid you made. Try to remember what your internal dialogue was and how the judgment was towards you. Then try to imagine that your partner or teammate did that thing. I bet your judgment towards her or towards him is much more understanding and benevolent. Isn't that so?

Do you want to improve self -esteem?

Send your inner judge on vacation, do not be too hard with yourself and remember that others, towards you, are more indulgent than you are with yourself.

Idea #3

Regarding the third and last idea, you answer these questions: to obtain the result to which you aim, what kind of athlete (or person) do you have to become? What skills do you need to develop? What personal characteristics do you need to improve?

Very well, now put on work and remember the most important thing: the person you become is more important than the result you get. It is a constant work in progress , a process of personal growth, not to be in a hurry to judge you!

Could you perhaps decide if you like a book written or not? Would you be able to understand if a picture meets your tastes when there is only a few sketches on the canvas? Would you be able to express a judgment on a film that is only the first draft of the script?

The same goes for you. You are the melody just mentioned that only with commitment and perseverance can become a magnificent symphony. Put at work and do what you need to make your music resonate. Do not run the risk of depriving the world of a work of art that only you can compose only because you have expressed a rushed judgment on yourself!

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